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The quality of our relationships shapes how we experience the world—and ourselves.

Real change takes courage, but you don’t have to do it alone. As a coach, I offer compassionate support, clear insight, and grounded accountability to help you move toward relationships that feel more connected, intentional, and alive.

Whether you're navigating a transition, exploring new ways of loving, or just wanting to show up more authentically in your connections, I’d love to hear from you.

As a coach, I am committed to trauma-informed, kink-friendly, LGBTQIA+ affirming, and polyamory-supportive coaching practices and philosophies. 

You can work with me worldwide on Zoom as well as in-person in 

Ōtautahi/Christchurch, New Zealand.

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Those who have worked with me say...

  • I highly recommend Janel to anyone looking for relationship coaching or support navigating life's challenges. I've worked with Janel on a couple of occasions and found her unique combination of life experience, education, insight, and genuine compassion incredibly valuable. She has an exceptional ability to listen deeply, ask thoughtful questions, and help uncover perspectives that I hadn't considered before. What I appreciated most was that she didn't simply tell me what I wanted to hear. She provided honest, constructive guidance while creating a safe and supportive environment to explore difficult topics. I left our sessions with greater clarity, practical tools, and a better understanding of myself and my relationships. If you're looking for someone who is caring, insightful, and genuinely invested in helping people create positive change, I wouldn't hesitate to recommend Janel.
    Bill
  • Working with Janel is always a pleasure, she has a real gift for listening and for creating the kind of environment where honest conversations come naturally. Whatever I bring to the table during sessions, she meets with warmth and genuine care, and her coaching has a way of feeling not only personally meaningful but really practically useful. I come away from every session feeling supported, uplifted, and with a renewed sense of what I’m capable of. Recommending her is easy peasy.
    Josh
  • A wonderful and supportive coach who helped me tremendously. After 17 years of a monogamous relationship, my husband and I were caught between the desire to transition to something else that would allow us to explore more and our own fears. She helped us put some order through our feelings, talked to us about jealousy and how to use it as information for what's needed in our relationship instead of a signal to stop, and how to move over the guilt and fear of judgment when opting for a relationship that doesn't fit the norms while living in a very conservative society. With her help, we made the transition to a new and beautiful period of our lives. I really recommend her.
    Teodora
  • As a man in his 40's who has recently been diagnosed with ADHD, I realized that how I had been functioning through relationships was not always good. I was often shut off emotionally and unable to find ways to express myself and often avoided difficult conversations to keep then peace. Janel has been amazing! She has helped to guide me down a path of learning to do things in a much healthier and more constructive way. Janel often knows just the right question to ask: the question that really gets you thinking about how you've done things and what you want to change or understand. Janel has given some great advice and follows it up with helpful tools to get you on the right track. Janel is very empathetic, kind, and knowledgeable, but will also tell you when you might not be seeing things in the right way. I realized that seeing someone who has specialized in relationships is no different than talking to a mechanic about what's wrong with my car. I dont know everything, but I'm willing to learn. I would fully recommend a visit with Janel. We are never to old to learn and develop ourselves into the people we want to be.
    Nick
  • George
    I had one session with Janel to work through challenges, questions and ideas around open relationships. I'd never had such a conversation in a coaching setting — and I am beyond grateful that I made the time. Janel is both deeply empathetic and insightful regarding relationships, communication, boundaries, and really any aspect of modern relationships you might want to explore with her. She puts you at ease with a balance of challenging, but supportive prompts, provocations and observations. I left our session with a sense of clarity, insight and confidence about the type of life and relationships I'm seeking and creating. 10/10 fantastic experience, and completely worth the financial and time investment. Thanks, Janel!
    George
  • J
    I have worked with Janel many times and each time I have found her to be a fantastic listener who creates such a warm and welcoming space for genuine conversations to flow. She is always supportive no matter the topic, and her coaching and advice is not only helpful but feels like it's coming from the heart. I always leave feeling supported, encouraged, and also challenged to improve. I wouldn't hesitate for a second to recommend her to anyone, anytime!
    J
  • 100% would recommend working with Janel. For my partner and myself, working alongside Janel to better understand ourselves and the ins and outs of a healthy, secure relationship, is always a positive experience. You can walk in feeling confused, lost or low and an hour later you're leaving with clarity, feeling understood and empowered. Her love for, and fascination with, relationships and people is plainly obvious and you can feel how much she cares to share all of her knowledge and skill with you. She is absolutely in your corner! While I haven't used Janel as a celebrant (yet), I would not hesitate to recommend her. I have no doubt that she would work alongside a couple/family/individual to create a ceremony unique to them and an entirely authentic representation of whatever moment in time they are celebrating. She's full of warmth, inclusiveness and fun and just stellar human-ness (and I guarantee could help write amazing vows). She will, for sure, be among some of the first calls I make if I get to plan a wedding.
    Sara
  • Val
    Janel is an all-round rad human. Her ability to make us feel heard, valued and respected in our own individuality helped support us to come together and build strength in our relationship. She offers practical tools that have become invaluable to us in our ability to better understand each other and minimise hurt and conflict. Highly recommend. Everyone needs a Janel.
    Val
  • Rob
    What a fantastic night. Set in a cosy, private spot - Janel has a fun and interactive way of tackling both the meta picture and the nuances of tricky topics. I’d highly recommend for anyone interested in or practicing polyamory.
    Rob
  • R
    As someone who does not wish to identify under a concept of relationship titles, I found Janel’s approach to authentic relating enlightening. Janel has a grace about her that makes you feel immediately accepted, and can help find a place for you to feel comfortable within your own beliefs around relationships.
    R
  • R
    Janel worked with my partner and I during an extremely sensitive time.  She created a safe space for us to communicate with each other amongst the pain and was able to carve out areas of common ground where it didn’t seem commonality could be found.  I’m extremely grateful for the sensitivity, skill and support she brought to the process. 
    R
  • Janel is exceptional at holding space, making you feel seen and gently shining a light on things you haven't yet surfaced. An amazing relationship coach with an incredible presence, insight and warmth. Very happy to have found her in Christchurch.
    Kit
  • Dani
    Janel is a superb communicator and very easy to discuss tough subjects with. She understands the sensitivity of different topics and I have left our conversations feeling empowered and clearheaded. Anyone looking to work through relationship difficulties is in safe, capable hands.
    Dani
  • Monica
    Janel is incredibly intuitive, a wonderful listener, and has found her calling as a relationship coach. She has a warm and empathetic style of coaching and I knew I was in good hands the minute I met her. She is authentic and it shows in her capacity to empathise and listen deeply. Above all she is so easy and comfortable to work with using her gentle but focused approach. Her life experience, her own trials and personal hardships have given her a unique insight into tending to the whole person in order for them to thrive. If you’re looking for an encouraging and supportive coach who will provide valuable perspective on any situation look no further than Janel.
    Monica
  • Patrick
    Janel is one of the kindest humans I have ever had a chance to meet. It doesn’t come as a surprise that when I’ve needed help understanding what I wanted from my relationship, she provided the caring and judgement free advice that I needed.
    Patrick